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Saturday, August 07, 2004
Kissing 102: the Fetish Files #1 - UPDATE#1
For the first installment of the Fetish Files, I'm starting off with something every boy and girl can relate with...Kissing.
Kissing is an underappreciated unfocused fetish. Sex, no matter how good, no matter how mind blowing, will (arguably) always be secondary to kissing. In other words, kissing gets top billing.
There's nothing I like better than waking up to a special guy on some late Saturday morning, cuddling, and yes... kissing. My favourite pastime...and I know I'm damn good kisser!
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Kissing 102
This is NOT a how-to Kiss guide. I'm writing on the principle that we all have different kissing styles and approaches, likes and dislikes. But I'm also assuming everyone agrees with me when I say that the best kiss is one involving genuine affection. Having said that, this is more like Step #2. We know how to kiss, so how can we make it better?
Below is a list I've compiled - suggestions, options, things that can heighten the kissing activity -turning an ordinary good kiss into a memorable one.
Much of it is based on my own experiences, so it's all one sided. That's why I need the help of you, yes YOU, boys and girls. Teach me something new and different about K-I-S-S-I-N-G. I am hoping this will turn out to be a growing and constantly updating long list. (*N.B. No matter how small and insignificant, send me your cues preferably via email so I can add further to the post... Mmmmmkay?) Hence, the list:
#1) Extensive Eye Contact. Yes, eye contact. Don't dismiss it. It's NOT necessarily present when sucking face with a partner.
To an extent, kissing is like having great conversation. The best ones are intimate. Don't shy away from your partner's eyes. Eye contact is intimacy. And boys, we all know that sex without emotions is not the same as sex with love. Kissing is the same way.
Direct eye-to-eye can be intimidating at times. But with a guy you have great sexual rapport with, the eyes confirm if there is a deep-rooted emotional connection of sorts. I tend to look at my partner's eyes for a few seconds before locking lips. Afterwards, again the staring ensues with the eyes communicating with confidence: "So there...that kiss was hot. Wasn't I good for you too?" Then, I give a smile.
#2 Flavoured Lip Balm. As recently as last thursday, I got rave reviews from Clark Kent. He said I tasted very sweet and he could not stop kissing me. He eventually had to ask what the sweet taste was all about.
Ladies, this is what I use. They taste so yummy that I can eat them for dessert. No need to buy those $10-$20 dollar super expensive lipshit. These Fruit Smoothies does the trick as it comes in three different flavours: Melon Melody, Triple Tropical, & ofcourse Berry Explosion (the one I was using when I was kissing Clark Kent).
#3 Tongue for Variation. Kissing shouldn't be monotonous. It's NOT all about touching lips. Variations of soft and hard kisses is ideal, as like wiggling one's tongue in and around your partner's mouth in tickle fashion.
Why the variation? It's like fucking a hot hole for a long time. Eventually you'll lose the feeling in your dick so you have to stop and touch your cock with your hand to see if it's still attached. Oooopppps. Sorry guys, I didn't realize I would break my rule and be crass. But I don't know how else to make that point across without being graphic. Anyways...
#4 Biting. Me? I bite. Literally! But in a playful fashion. I can't begin to tell you the overwhelming response from so many guys when I do a bit of light-biting of the upper lip, if not the lower ear lobe. It's unexpected, and if done right, very pleasant. There's something animalistic about it.
#5 Mints VS Chewing Gum. Most of you probably like a minty taste in your mouth; through brushing, through mint candies, to each his own. Tictacs do not last. But it's the initial blow that is key anyways. And then, there are those super strong chewing gum in the market these days. I don't really have a preference. But I know some people are turned off with guys swapping not only spit, but also gum. I've tried this by accident as I obtained gum from the other party's mouth. It was pretty hot, actually. His gum tasted good. He he he.
#6 Hands. So where should the hands be when kissing? I don't think they should neccessarily be everywhere. I look for clues. When I am the aggressor (which is most of the time), I tend to grab a guy by the back of his neck forcefully towards myself. If not, I tend to gently rub my fingers on my partner's ears. Personally, I prefer light carressing touches around the small of my back when smootching. But since I also have a hand fetish, I like my hands being held and clasped tightly.
#7 The Forehead and the Nose. It's a minor touch, but when I look back, I love it when a guy kisses me on the forehead. It's indicative of a caring kiss. The nose? Ditto.
Updated August 3/04
#8 The Lift. Not everyone is capable of 'the lift', especially if the other party is much heavier. I recently reconnected with a special guy. Holding him by the buttocks, I slowly lifted him above the ground kissing him passionately. I felt invincible. The idea of carrying a guy displaying my strength to him is pretty hot and very masculine. It's like I was saying to the world: "This is my prized posession. And, I am so proud."
Updated August 3/04
#9 The Giggle. Yes, add a little bit of laughter. It wasn't until a few readers unanimously commented on this giggle idea that I realize how true this was for me as well. Those special kisses I've had in the past? All of them involved a tad of giggling, sometimes more. You break contact. Zero out for a smile while taking good time to catch your breath.
Randy from Dead or Alive in Ohio started this thread of breaking kiss and giggling. It definitely breaks down the tension - relaxing two people before and after an intimate exchange.
Jeffrey from Gatsby's Ghost comments: "An ideal sequence: kiss, laugh, kiss again. Repeat as often as necessary."
Updated August 6/04
#10 Inhaling I thought the comment on inhaling a partner's breath was very interesting. So I decided to give it a try. Apparently, according to Will at DesignerBlog, this method is 'incredibly erotic'.
I do agree. I found it very erotic. At first, it felt really weird sucking in another person's breath. I know I stunned my partner for a milisecond, but I did find inhaling his breath curiously appealing. It's like a part of him has entering my lungs. I'm not too sure though if the other party found it as erotic as I did. I think he was more concerned of morning breath as it was 5am. At the time, I didn't care. But also, I didn't get a whiff of any unpleasantness. I need more practice on this one.
Updated August 6/04
#10 The Fantasy. Role playing.
writing in progress...
Here's a few other ideas that can accentuate the kissing activity. I hope YOU can help me expand on these. Tell me your experiences with Kissing using:
* Various Body Parts & Objects. (eg. hair, beard, fingers,teeth, braces, etc...)
* Breathing.
* Different Angles. Neck Tilting. Positioning.
* Tongue Techniques. Tongue Play.
* Food.
* Playing with Ice.
* Mood Music.
* Opportunity/Circumstance/Danger factor.
* Kissing in Public. Kissing in front of an audience.
* Role-Playing.
* Kissing in the Shower. Kissing below water.
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